Why is talking to yourself so important?

I was in the post office one day when the rain outside was doing a great impersonation of Niagara Falls.

It wasn’t just raining it was a deluge, which basically means that the wind and sun had scooped up a good wedge of the North Atlantic and the North Sea and had managed to drag the billion gallons a few hundred miles south to Devon and then decided to throw the bloody lot down at once. Mostly on the people who needed to buy a stamp.

Now I’m in the que when this little and presumably old lady came tottering in. I guessed she was either old or her she’d had her face out in the water too long.

We are not talking the wrinkles you get on your finger tips in the bath here. This was more like the satellite Google Map of the high Alps.

Any way in she tottered holding on to one of those formula one walking frames. You know the ones with the breaks to slow them down when they are cornering?

Anyway, she short of shook herself a bit like a dog and managed to wet everything inside the shop that the roof had otherwise been keeping dry, and then she spoke the classic mantra of the terminably weather obsessed.

“Isn’t the weather miserable?” she asked of no one in particular and everyone in general.

“No”, I replied, “The weather is the weather, you’re the one that’s miserable.”

Now I know what you are thinking. You’re thinking I was being sarcastic and that she didn’t actually mean that the weather was fed up and was taking prozac.

You are thinking that the words she spoke were, well, just words, and that even though I had exhibited a high degree of metrological knowledge and sartorial observation, I was just gobbling off to an old lady for no reason other than because I could.

Well yes, it was partiality that but it was mostly because when we talk to ourselves and to others about ourselves if we start to listen then we get two things. One, we get the picture of what we project to the outside world and two, and way more important, we get what we think of ourselves inside. What we really think.

Everyday you talk to yourself and about yourself.

You affirm your beliefs, explain your behaviour, predict your future. You persuade, cajole, order and suggest stuff constantly and consistently.

To Yourself and that’s what makes you – You.

And you are very good at being you.

For this reason alone you can be very good at being the you, YOU really want to be.

And all you need to do is to use the techniques of self seductive suggestion that you are using right now to keep you where you are.

Imagine working with the worlds greatest hypnotist and suggestionist all the time with no trance or need for swinging watches or staring eyeballs.

Well you can, because that’s you that is.

SELFSEDUCTION steps
Think have a thought – doesn’t need to be ‘positive’ but it should be producetive.

Imagine – pretend make up, create, whenever you get a great thunk, back that up with detail and desire.

Listen – to yourself, what are you telling the world about you and what are you telling yourself to be?

Repair – When you say something bad about yourself repair it, reverse it. Put it right because no one else will or can.

Don’t wait! – Repair it as it happens, even in the middle of a conversation.

Say it out loud – don’t internalise it. You talk to yourself out loud when you are alone because self suggestion is strongest done that way.

Use GOOD words – Good words like will, have, now, can, always, definitely, yes.

Use EMOTIVE words – like awesome, fantastic, cool, sexy, amazing.

Get emotional – feel the words, it’s great seeing pictures but your mind will respond best to feelings so will your brain as it produces dopamine and endorphins.

Habitual ritual – do it all the time. You talk to yourself all the time anyway but make self suggestion really useful by repeating it in a ‘special’ set out to do this thing way. Then it works a bit like saying preyers did when you were a kid. And the same thing is listening – You are.

Using Rapid Repetition – a little trick I developed on my one day training – the more you say the more it works.

One thing at a time – change one thing then move on. Don’t spread the attention, that would be like having a 1 on 1 with the population of Wolverhampton all at once.

The 30 day rule – most habits take around 30 days to acquire and bed in according to Nasa, although this isn’t rocket science it seems to work best that way.

Give yourself believable suggestions – don’t tell yourself you can fly, walk on water, run through brick walls or live beneath the sea without breathing gear. Your mind might just believe you and that could cause shit loads of problems.

Make it Seductive – Seduction:-
Something that tempts or attracts, beguiles or persuades.
The process of deliberately enticing a person into an act.

Self Seduction:-
Enticing and cajoling oneself into pleasant and rewarding behaviours and beliefs.

Suggestion:-
The process of inducing a thought, sensation, or action in a receptive person without giving rise to reflection in the recipient.

Autosuggestion:-
Suggestion arising from oneself, as the repetition of verbal messages as a means of changing behaviour.

I’m thinking of running a teleseminar on Self Seduction if enough people would be prepared to pay a ridiculously small fee for virtual seats and get an up close and personal Q & A.

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In hypnotherapy, especially the more establishment clinical style of training, they teach you how to get around peoples resistance almost before anything else. Marketing people do the same thing showing how to address peoples reluctance or issues before you’ve even got to them.

I can see why these things are there, for hundreds of years, or in the case of modern lay psychotherapy and internet marketing for the last ten or fifteen years, the object has been to get the mark – sorry client – and then if necessary batter them into submission.

What must be happening to even give this problem sorting approach the smallest glimpse of your time is that you are pla

There are without doubt 2 mental process’s at work, one is called the conscious and the other the subconscious. I think the easiest way to think of them, and to get a handle on what they do and how they interact is to think of them like this.

Mind, the part of your mental process that is emotional, creative, playful, childlike, irrational, capricious, illogical.

Brain, the part of your mental process that is unemotional, objective, serious, adult, rational, analytical, logical.

Now it doesn’t matter whether we consider the Mind as a Separate entity or some kind of attached energy or Soul or whether we see it as product of the Physical brain. Whichever you prefer as both suffice.

The Brain however we know for sure is a physical biological computer. It handles the nervous system and our judgements and calculates all the stuff we need to pick up a spoon right through to working out why E=Mc2

The Mind does and makes us do, everything else.

All the evidence points towards there being two separate process’s that sometimes work in harmony but more often work independantly or worse, in conflict with each other.

The fact is that science is only able to speculate as to what your subconscious may or may not be. Logic seems to suggest that if the mind is a product of the brain then it’s an absolute sign of inbuilt design fault as emotions are largely unneeded and retaining a playful and spiritual immaturity is counter productive to maintaining a social status.

On the other hand it could just be that the Brain is simply a tool of the driving Mind. Which appears to be the case as regardless of logic and objective reason we are way more likely to do what the Mind wants. Emilé Coué said “If there is conflict between the Intellect and the Imagination the Imagination will always win.”

The other notable thing of course is that even when the brain is at rest and not much is being thought the Mind continues to create, desire, feel, play. Doesn’t matter if that’s in sleep, trance or coma.

So my take is that the Mind is the driver and the Brain is the pedal, steering wheel and control system of the body – vehicle.

Before presupposition the French had a term for it which pre-dates presupposition by about a hundred years first appearing around 1845 in a history of a Franco army triumph.

The term?

Fait Accompli – which means ‘the deed is done’.That roughly means to suppose that something has already happened.

Creating a reality as if it has already happened, even though it will happen in the future, is what hypnotists have been doing as a matter of course for a few hundreds of years and what subconscious minds have been doing for ever.

“When I wake you you HAVE forgotten your name.” The presupposition there is you Have forgotten it even though that hasn’t happened yet.

What you DO with it is to act as if the result is a thing of the present rather than a thing of the future.

For instance to get someone to shut the door you could say, “You found closing the door to be pleasant.”

Don’t hide it, there is no need. Their brain won’t understand it as it has no future nor past and becoming confused will give over control to the mind. Their mind will just believe it and to make it so and fell ‘pleasant’ it Has To Shut The Door. What will happen is they will look at you with a frown or even say “What?” and then they will close the door to ‘feel pleasant’.

Of course you could just say, “Please shut the door,” but that isn’t anywhere near as much fun as playing the mind game!

So to use a presupposition move your imagination into a place where Fait Accompli! And act and talk as if it is.

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